Travelling with a group recently, I found myself in a conversation that has lingered in my mind. One person shared their wish that newcomers to Australia wouldn’t bring “their religious baggage.” I smiled quietly, not in agreement, but in recognition.

My own family, with roots in Scotland, and Ireland, brought plenty of their own religious baggage to Australia. My grandparents’ story is a poignant example—it took them ten years to marry because one was Catholic and the other Protestant. Even then, they couldn’t marry in a church.

Their story speaks to a history of division, where religious differences weren’t just private beliefs but lines that shaped relationships and communities. It’s a history that resonates today, even as we strive to live in a multicultural, diverse society.

That history came to mind again when I invited friends to a local church carols event. One declined, explaining that they couldn’t reconcile participating in something associated with institutions that, in their view, have fueled conflicts for centuries. They reminded me that over 90% of wars in history have been linked to religious disputes. It wasn’t a judgment on my invitation but an expression of their deeply held values, and it gave me pause.

Similarly, another friend declined an invitation to a Melbourne Cup luncheon, voting with their feet against an event they felt conflicted with their principles. I find these choices encouraging. They suggest we are becoming a society where people feel empowered to align their actions with their values.

As the most multicultural countries in the world, (1 in 3 Australians were born overseas) Australia is enriched by its diversity. That diversity often challenges us to engage with perspectives we may not share, and sometimes, to sit with the discomfort of those differences. It requires us to listen, reflect, and respond with empathy rather than retreat into defensiveness.

In Australian schools, many young people are learning how to navigate these conversations—how to respect and appreciate diverse viewpoints while confidently articulating their own. It’s a skill set I believe more adults could learn from.

Perhaps the future lies not in avoiding the metaphorical baggage we all bring but in unpacking it together, finding shared understanding while honouring individual journeys. If our young people can do it, surely the rest of us can try too.