When you’ve seen as many Christmases as I have, the sparkle of tinsel and the aroma of ham can sometimes lose their charm. It’s not that the day itself is unwelcome, it’s the politics of it all. The grumpy aunt who can’t let go of a 20-year grudge. The uncle who has opinions on everything from climate change to how you carve the turkey. The mother-in-law whose every compliment feels like a backhanded slap.

And let’s not forget the exhaustion of trying to make Christmas “perfect.” The tree has to look like it fell out of a magazine. The presents must scream thoughtfulness. The food must rival a five-star restaurant, even if half the family doesn’t eat gluten, dairy, or meat.

For many, Christmas feels more like an endurance event than a celebration. And yet, there’s something about this time of year that still matters. It’s not the religion for everyone. It’s not even the traditions we cling to like lifeboats. It’s the fact that it’s a day put aside. A day where, if we let it, we can pause and come together.

But maybe it’s time we reinvented it. Australia, the most multicultural country in the world, is perfectly placed to create a Christmas that feels inclusive and meaningful for everyone, no matter what, or if, they believe.

Imagine this: instead of a single dinner that divides us into our familiar corners of annoyance, we gather with neighbours and friends for a potluck feast. Everyone brings a dish that represents their culture or family heritage. From Indian curries to Lebanese baklava, Italian antipasti to Chinese dumplings, the table becomes a celebration of who we are as a nation.

Instead of debates about who said what at last year’s party, we share stories. Not just stories of our own lives, but the histories of our families and how we came to be here. Instead of forced gift exchanges, we give something simple, a favourite recipe, a book we’ve loved, or even just our time to listen.

And for those of us who’d prefer to avoid the noise altogether? What if Christmas became a day to reflect on what connection means to us? To send a letter of thanks to someone we appreciate, take a long walk with someone we love, or sit quietly with a coffee and remember those we’ve lost.

A Christmas like this isn’t about religion or tradition; it’s about humanity. It’s about making space for each other in a world that so often leaves us divided. It’s a reminder that what matters most is the connections we make, grumpy aunt and all.

So, this year, let’s try something different. Let’s make Christmas a day that reflects who we truly are: a diverse, compassionate, imperfect bunch of people who might not always get along, but who always, somehow, come back to the table.