Christmas craziness season is upon us. Tempted to stray? Many find themselves at a crossroads, facing the allure of an affair with it be physical or emotional. But before you act, there are some critical things to consider.

First, ask yourself why. Affairs often stem from unmet needs or disconnection in a relationship, but the thrill of secrecy might mask deeper issues that, left unaddressed, could resurface. Reflect on whether the affair truly holds what you’re seeking, or if it’s an escape from facing unresolved matters in your current partnership.

Consider the potential fallout. Affairs can bring temporary excitement, but they also carry risks – emotional, physical, and relational. Relationships founded on trust can be challenging to rebuild once that trust is broken. If you share a life together, the impact can ripple into areas like family, friendships, work and even finances.

Reflect: is there a way to rediscover that excitement within your existing relationship? Honest communication with your partner can often lead to a renewed connection or, if necessary, an open discussion about what each of you needs. Sometimes, couples counseling or individual therapy can help explore these areas without causing harm.

Ultimately, an affair may not be the answer you’re looking for. Reflect deeply, and ask yourself if you’re willing to make a choice with potential lasting consequences. Often, the harder road of communication and self-discovery leads to far more rewarding destinations.